Nothing that happens to a writer — however happy, however tragic — is ever wasted. Jonathan Franzen 1 The reader is a friend, not an adversary, not a spectator.
In every paragraph, tell the reader exactly how high, wide, and long he is. You need to approach your manuscript with sober objectivity and knowledge of the craft. Keep showing up, keep improving your sessions day by day. If you have the knack of playing with exclaimers the way Tom Wolfe does, you can throw them in by the handful.
Compassion is empathy on steroids. Almost always it turns out that they'd be better dead. I sat under his teaching years ago and still follow his advice.